Alternative Wedding Planning for Independent, Feminist, & LGBTQ+ People

Seattle, St. Louis, and Beyond

Cindy Savage Aisle Less Traveled Wedding Planner. Photo by Pinxit Photo.Hi, I’m Cindy, your queer feminist wedding planner. I help independent, feminist, and LGBTQ+ couples like you plan meaningful weddings without losing your sanity or blowing your budget. I’m based in Seattle (my new town) and St. Louis (my hometown) – but I love to travel so much that it’s included for the entire continental US in all of my packages!

I offer a wide range of wedding planning services from wedding planning subscriptions for DIY-ers to my signature wedding management package to full-service, start-to-finish wedding planning and design, plus a la carte options you can mix and match. If you want to plan with me, I’ve got something that will fit your needs and your budget. With modern technology, I’m a mostly virtual wedding planner – so we can work together no matter where you (or your wedding) are located.

Enough about me, though – let’s talk about YOU!

So you've found your person and you got engaged and everything is amazing!

Except that now you have to actually plan a wedding.

Alternative Wedding Planner for independent, feminist, & LGBTQ+ people
Sarah & Matt's Chicago Wedding at Salvage One © Jeremy Lawson Photography

Tell me if this is you:

    • You started planning on your own because how hard could it be?
    • You’ve lost countless hours scouring the internet trying to figure out how this whole wedding planning thing works.
    • You’ve tried to narrow a vision down on Pinterest, but there were eleventy-million good ideas so now you have 7 different perfect weddings planned – but you’re not sure any of them are actually what you and your partner want.
    • You’ve turned to the blogs for inspiration, only to find a sea of cookie-cutter weddings, a bride-centric narrative, and not a single couple who looks like the two of you.
    • Unsolicited opinions are flying at you from all directions, and people keep saying things like “You have to _______” and “But that’s the way weddings are done!”

In short, you've discovered the complete fuckery that is wedding planning and eloping is starting to look really damn good.

Do you want a photo of all the guests at your small wedding like this one? I'll be there to wrangle people into position for your photographer.
Kris & Stacy's Pinwheel-Themed Wedding © Cristina G Photography

News Flash: You Need A Wedding Planner!

(And you need it to be someone who just gets you.)

Someone who won’t shove you into a wedding-industry-shaped box. Someone who thinks your quirky couple things are rad and who celebrates your love equally and who will question the patriarchy along the way with you.

Oh yeah, and someone who maybe has done this a few times before.

Take a deep breath and let me handle this. It's what I do - and I'm really good at it.

Together, we can plan the YOU-est wedding there ever could be – and we’ll probably even have fun doing it.

Let's start exactly where you are. Which one of these is how you feel right now?

We are freaking out because we don't know WTF we are doing and this is all completely overwhelming.
Ok, no problem! You need...
We just wanna be engaged and live our lives and for someone else to handle all this wedding planning bullshit for us.
You got it! Let's talk about...

Here are some of my favorite happy couples! Find out what they have to say about working with me here. ​

Check out our latest blog posts for wedding planning Advice and inspiration!

Bride in dress and Bride in suit hold hands

Caroline & Jenny’s Colorful Riverfront Park and Brewery Wedding in Aurora, Illinois

One of my favorite parts of this wedding was how colorful everything was. From the deeply saturated hues in their DIY flowers to their multicolor ribbon backdrop and bunting to the rainbow ribbon wands we set out for guests and the sprinkles on their cake, you couldn’t look in any direction without being smacked by colors!! The wedding party was decked out in shades of gray – the only muted color in sight – and their bold bouquets and boutonnieres really popped.

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COVID & Weddings & Contracts & Rescheduling

I wrote a long comment in response to a bride who was struggling to understand why her venue was only offering weekdays, Fridays, and Sundays for postponing her upcoming wedding due to COVID. And then it was literally too long for Facebook’s comment rules, so I thought I’d share it here to help anyone who is wondering the same thing. Here’s what I said to her:

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Straight people do not get to educate on and profit from LGBTQ+ people's lived experiences.

If You Are Not LGBTQ+, You Don’t Get to Educate on LGBTQ+ Inclusivity

The group who organized this should never have brought in a straight person to educated on the lived experiences of LGBTQ+ people. And a true LGBTQ+ ally, as this person claims to be, would never, ever accept such a speaking gig. Nor use it to plug her (paid) services, literally profiting off of the pain of LGBTQ+ people.

A true ally would say, “Thanks, but this work is already being done by LGBTQ+ folks. Here are some who could speak on this topic.”

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